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FreeIf this was the 00's, you would have burned her a C.D. Do the digital version.
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What to Send Instead of Flowers
Flowers are the default, and defaults are lazy. Here's what to send when you want the gesture to actually land — and still be around next week.
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Buy a star in their memory
$29.95"Someone gifted me this after a miscarriage in honor of the baby. It was the most thoughtful gesture." Suggested by: M.G.
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Memorial bear made from their clothes
$85+The perfect way to take their favorite old shirt and repurpose it into something to comfort them.
meaningfulcomforting
'There is no good card for this' card
$6Sometimes there really isn't a good card. This one says it.
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Tarot deck
$25Not everyone will get it. But the right person absolutely will.
meaningfulcomfortingunder $50
Morse code bracelet
$28Let them carry a name, a date, or a message that's just for them.
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Eterneva memorial diamond
$3,000+Turn ashes, clothes or even hair into a lab grown diamond.
meaningful
Custom photo playing cards
$30+An easy way to pass the time with pictures of better times.
meaningfulcomfortingnot too intense
Personalized photo puzzle
$35+Remind them of better times with a favorite photo, one piece at a time.
meaningfulcomfortingnot too intense
Monogrammed tote
$44.95+Sometimes an unrelated funny gift is the best kind.
funny-ishnot too intense
Trash magazines
$20+Give the gift of mental rot. No thinking required.
funny-ishnot too intenseunder $50
Foot massage
$40+"Foot massages lets her know she’s not alone sitting next to her friend but also a place where it’s 100 percent acceptable not to talk at all." Suggested by: anonymous
meaningfulnot too intenseunder $50
Curse word coloring book
$8+Something to do with their hands while they swear about it.
funny-ishnot too intenseunder $50
Plant a tree in their memory
$25+"Knowing there was a tree growing somewhere in honor of my baby brought me a surprising amount of peace."
meaningfulunder $50
Forever flowers
$30+"Real flowers are beautiful, but they die so quickly. I sent her paper flowers that she wouldn't have to take care of." Suggested by: anonymous
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'This sucks' sympathy candle
$28I mean, its the truth.
funny-ishcomfortingunder $50
What to write
"I'm so sorry. I loved them too. I'm going to keep checking in — you don't have to write back."
"There is nothing right to say. I just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you today."
"Sending you a real, non-metaphorical hug. I'll drop off dinner Thursday."
What not to send
- ×"Everything happens for a reason." It doesn't. Not this.
- ×A generic sympathy bouquet with a card the florist wrote.
- ×One text, once, on day one — then nothing.
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